Goal setting is extremely important, but a majority of the population do not set goals for themselves. That is a huge mistake since if you do not establish a target in life, you will not know where to aim. Going through life without goals is like walking through the forest without direction. It is easy to get lost, waste time, and feel like you have no purpose when you do not set goals.
Brian Tracy says that less than 3% sets their goals and only 1% only write down their goals regularly. If you don’t regularly set goals, then you will always work for someone else with goals. Here are the top seven reasons you don’t set goals.
1. You Aren’t Serious About Yourself or Your Goals
The world is full of talkers, but talkers are not impressive. Your words will be quickly forgotten, but your actions can make an impact on all those who are around you. You can tell what a person believes by their actions. Only what you do counts; so stop telling people what you are going to do and show them.
2. You Don’t Feel Responsible for Your Life
Bad things happen to everyone. Although you cannot control what happens to you, you can control how you react. Don’t let negative trials cement you in a life of worthlessness. You are bigger and better than your past and what others have done to you.
I grew up with limited funds, and my parents were always in debt. When it came time to go to college, I didn’t have anything to pay for my education. However, I knew I wanted to do it debt-free, and I made that my goal. I pursued action rather than excuses, and I am so thankful I did.
3. You Feel Guilty
Some people are stuck feeling guilty because they have been in a negative setting for so long. They do not feel worthy of their goals or anything better in life. If anyone makes you feel guilty for having goals and dreams and actually accomplishing them, those people are not worth having around.
4. You Don’t Realize the Importance of Goals
My parents never talked about the importance of goals, nor did they exercise goal setting in their own lives. It is no wonder why they felt stuck in the same circle of bad luck.
5. You Don’t Know How
Sure, everyone knows how to pick a few lofty resolutions at the beginning of the New Year. However, not many people know how to set goals effectively, so that they actually accomplish the goal they set.
On the other end of the spectrum, another danger is thinking you know everything there is about goal setting. Brian Tracy says that he has been studying for over 20 years and teaching, and yet still feels like he needs to learn.
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6. You Fear Rejection or Criticism
Did parents or others slap down your dreams before you even hit adulthood? People who do not set goals do not understand goals, and most humans will mock what they do not understand. Stay confident in your goals. Tell only the people who are goal-orientated people your goals if you know they will encourage you.
7. You Fear Failure
Fearing failure is one of the greatest obstacles to success. It keeps people at their current level because they are too afraid to take a risk. So far, I can tell you that no failure has been so horrible that I regretted taking the risk.
Goal Setting 101: Write Down Your Goals
I will be going over goal setting more in depth in the upcoming weeks, but here is the basic framework to get you started.
Top 5 Goals Everyone Needs
Goals need to be written down. If you don’t write down your goals, then you merely have wishes without any gumption or power behind them.
When you write down your goals, you need to have goals in several key areas, such as the following:
- Physical: This includes any health goals or goals that will push you physically, i.e. losing 25 pounds, doing a 5k, or climbing Everest
- Spiritual: These are goals you accomplish to meet your greater need and answer the “why am I here” question.
- Mental: These goals include what you want to learn
- Career: Goals include making $X amount per year or getting a promotion
- Relationship: You will set different goals for your top relationships. For example, you will have marriage goals, parent goals, as well as other family and friend goals
Set Realistic Goals
When you are first starting out, keep your goals realistic. If you set a goal that is too big at first, you will easily become discouraged and stop reaching for the goal once the initial drive is gone. Think of goal setting like a snowball. Making a small snowball in your hands is quite simple. Then once you have that core structure, you can keep adding snow and once it is big enough, you can even roll it down the hill, and it will quickly pick up momentum and grow at a more rapid pace.
Your goals are the same way. Perhaps you want to lose 50 pounds. That is a huge undertaking, and it can feel overwhelming. However, you start with the goal of losing three pounds. That is quite simple. Then you move to five pounds, then ten, and then all of a sudden, you have changed your habits and you have confidence in the goal, and weight loss becomes easier than you imagined it would be. You build momentum and reach the 50-pound mark.
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Know the Drive Behind Your Goals
The difference between those who accomplish their goals and those who don’t is that those who accomplish their goals know what that hard work is going to be to get the goal done, as well as how to keep themselves reaching for their goals, even when the initial drive is gone.
You need to know the reason behind each goal you set. If you only have a few reasons for doing your goal, then you are more likely to give up on that goal. However, if you have a solid 15-20 reasons for wanting to accomplish that goal, you will succeed. Only you can want to achieve a goal for yourself. You will not achieve goals that others want for you or goals that you feel you ought to do.
What are some of the goals you are working on right now? I love to hear about others’ journey of goal setting – what works for you and what hasn’t worked?