The Magic Power of Writing Down Goals

There is power in writing down your goals, and I have witnessed it first-hand.  I started writing down my goals and dreams after reading several of Brian Tracy’s books, Chalene Johnson’s book, and listening to Hannah Keely’s videos.

I always had yearly resolutions growing up, but nothing that I wrote down. It wasn’t until 2014 that I really started focusing on what I wanted in life, and I wrote down my goals several times a year. I didn’t even look back on them. In 2014, I wrote a letter to my future self that I was supposed to read in 2015. (more…)

Is Working from Home Right for You?

I have had the privilege of working from home for the past decade. It hasn’t been easy, but it has been rewarding. Over the previous 10 years, many people have expressed their desire to work from home. Similarly, online, thousands of more people express this wish to make their own hours.

When I talk to these people and read their posting online, I can’t help but ask, “why do you really want to work from home?” (more…)

Why I Turned Down a $132,000 Job

So many times, we think, “If we just had more money, life would be better?”

Ever fall in that trap?

Working from home doesn’t spare us from this thought process, and over the past five years, I have wondered if I should continue working at home, put my kids in daycare and really pursue a career or just quit altogether. Very different situations, but the ups and downs of freelancing can cause you to have major mood swings. (more…)

How to Become a Mom Inventor

Mama Profile with Michelle Gast

Everyday problems are necessary for ingenious inventions. There are some people who look at life’s minor problems as an inconvenience, and other people who see these problems as an opportunity. Michelle Gast, mama of two and founder of BEAUTILITY and the inventor of the Recoup BEAUTISCOOP, a flexible scoop that helps you save every drop of make-up and beauty product. (more…)

Don’t Be a Rory Gilmore: 4 Tips When Your Life Plans Fail

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I am a huge Gilmore girls fan, so you can bet I was excited about the Netflix relaunch.

And yet, I was totally let down.

Don’t get me wrong. There were a lot of things I loved and several things that made me cringe. One of the most cringe-worthy things was that Rory was such a loser. 

Harsh. I know. Hang with me. 

Rory was always super smart, with big goals and charming personality, so it was frustrating when she just gave up when her life plan didn’t exactly plan out. Girlfriend was having a midlife crisis in her 30s.

Here are four lessons we can learn from Rory when life doesn’t go as we plan.

1. Don’t Hang on Your Big Star Too Long

Rory wrote an amazing article for The Atlantic, and it had people talking. However, it was one piece, and eventually people forget about it.

I wish for everyone to experience those amazing moments where their wildest dreams come true. However, when they do happen, don’t park your car there too long. You need to keep moving forward. Your next accomplishment might not be worthy of any praise, but at least you aren’t growing stagnant.

After I wrote the first Blondie McGhee book, it was such an amazing feeling, but I realized that I needed to keep going. I don’t think I would have sold over 1,000 paperbacks and eBooks of the first Blondie book if I hadn’t published the second and third one.

Crystal Paine of MoneySavingMom.com and author of Money Making Mom made a similar point in her book. She jumped on the Facebook wagon right when it was hot and was able to secure a lot of traffic through the social media site. After putting all her efforts into Facebook to make her blog succeed, Facebook changed its algorithms and temporarily crippled Crystal’s website. She says that she learned from that experience not to put all of your eggs in one basket.

2. Don’t Waste Time with Pointless Pursuits

I was also annoyed with how Rory then threw all of her time and energy into Star Hollows’ newspaper. She wasn’t getting paid, but that is not the worst part. She wasn’t even allowed to pursue the newspaper project in her way and make it her passion. Did the paper make her happy? Judging by how much alcohol she consumed at her editor’s desk, I am guessing no.

There are going to be a lot of opportunities that come your way, but not all are worth pursuing. Don’t waste your precious time on them. I’ve wasted my time on plenty of pointless pursuits. I’ve wasted time trying to become a MLM success, planner creator, fashion/celebrity blogger, English teacher, and more. The common theme of the pursuits was that I wasn’t passionate about them, and therefore, I was wasting my time and talents on them.

3. Paying Rent Is More Important Than Saving Face

Rory had high expectations for herself in the publishing world, which is great, but she forgot a little fact – rent is due every month. If you have financial obligations, then you sometimes have to take on less desired positions to stay afloat financially. I’m not saying saddle yourself to a desk job and forget your passions. I’m just saying, “Don’t forget rent is due.”

Rory rejected several writing positions because they weren’t highly esteemed. Sometimes you have to do the “crap work” before you get your dream job. This past month, one of my dreams came true – I was published in Forbes. #Mindblown However, if you looked at what I was writing four or five years ago, you might have thought I would get my name on top websites.

Don’t be afraid to start at the bottom and work your way up.

4. Babies Are a Game Changer, Not a Game Ender

Spoiler alert, Rory tells her mom she is pregnant at the end of the Gilmore Girls’ reunion. The way she took and delivered the news was like a death sentence. Before my two kids came along, I wasn’t on the path to greatness. After each child, I became much more focused, organized and successful.

Having children is not a game ender or passion destroyer. Yes, they are hard. There was a long period when I got very little sleep between keeping up with assignments and a baby who woke up every four hours. There are times I let an editor down because the most unexpected things happen with my children, but they are so worth it.

When you have your first child, your life is going to change, and that is okay. You can change with your life and still feel fulfilled in pursuing your passions. Think of becoming a parent as a new perspective rather than a dead end.

Okay, Gilmore Girl fans. Tell me what you loved and/or hated about the show revival. I always love to talk Gilmore.

 

 

 

Don’t Quit Your Passions: Lori Cheek Interview

Going from a Shark Tank Rejection to Success

I use to watch Shark Tank religiously, and remember watching the lively Lori Cheek present her business to the Sharks. She was full of zeal and her business idea was quirky, but she received some very blunt rejection from the Sharks.

Imagine my surprise when Lori emailed me wanting to share her story for Credit Sesame. Can I just say that one of my favorite things about being a writer is that I get to interview some super cool people? I am constantly blown away by the crazy, exciting things that others have done.

You can read her whole story and secrets on Credit Sesame here.

After several emails back and forth, Lori’s won’t-quit attitude inspired me. The Sharks shredded her business idea, but she turned that rejection into fuel to keep going.

Finding the Diamond Out of Your Rock Before You Quit Your Passions

Sometimes your passion or business idea, whether it be a side hustle or a product, needs a lot of refining. Right now you have a rock, and you wonder if all of your hard work of sanding and shining it will make it the diamond you hope it can be.

I felt the same way about freelance writing many years ago. When I first started, blogging and online writing were just beocming a thing. I regularly would take work for $5-12 an article. When sites started to offer me $25 an article, I was over the moon.

Imagine my surprise that I now am paid 12-15 times that amount per article now. It is completely mind-blowing to me.

Same thing with my books, especially the Blondie McGhee series I started this year. I just wanted to write and have young readers enjoy my books. I sold over 1,500 paperback copies this year and over 500 ebook copies.

If I had given up years ago, I would not have been able to see this wonderful fruit of my labor. Don’t quit your passions just yet; the diamond might be waiting for you around the corner. If you are still passionate about your pursuit, then don’t worry about the numbers.

What passion or business idea have you been working hard at this year?