I am a huge Gilmore girls fan, so you can bet I was excited about the Netflix relaunch.
And yet, I was totally let down.
Don’t get me wrong. There were a lot of things I loved and several things that made me cringe. One of the most cringe-worthy things was that Rory was such a loser.
Harsh. I know. Hang with me.
Rory was always super smart, with big goals and charming personality, so it was frustrating when she just gave up when her life plan didn’t exactly plan out. Girlfriend was having a midlife crisis in her 30s.
Here are four lessons we can learn from Rory when life doesn’t go as we plan.
1. Don’t Hang on Your Big Star Too Long
Rory wrote an amazing article for The Atlantic, and it had people talking. However, it was one piece, and eventually people forget about it.
I wish for everyone to experience those amazing moments where their wildest dreams come true. However, when they do happen, don’t park your car there too long. You need to keep moving forward. Your next accomplishment might not be worthy of any praise, but at least you aren’t growing stagnant.
After I wrote the first Blondie McGhee book, it was such an amazing feeling, but I realized that I needed to keep going. I don’t think I would have sold over 1,000 paperbacks and eBooks of the first Blondie book if I hadn’t published the second and third one.
Crystal Paine of MoneySavingMom.com and author of Money Making Mom made a similar point in her book. She jumped on the Facebook wagon right when it was hot and was able to secure a lot of traffic through the social media site. After putting all her efforts into Facebook to make her blog succeed, Facebook changed its algorithms and temporarily crippled Crystal’s website. She says that she learned from that experience not to put all of your eggs in one basket.
2. Don’t Waste Time with Pointless Pursuits
I was also annoyed with how Rory then threw all of her time and energy into Star Hollows’ newspaper. She wasn’t getting paid, but that is not the worst part. She wasn’t even allowed to pursue the newspaper project in her way and make it her passion. Did the paper make her happy? Judging by how much alcohol she consumed at her editor’s desk, I am guessing no.
There are going to be a lot of opportunities that come your way, but not all are worth pursuing. Don’t waste your precious time on them. I’ve wasted my time on plenty of pointless pursuits. I’ve wasted time trying to become a MLM success, planner creator, fashion/celebrity blogger, English teacher, and more. The common theme of the pursuits was that I wasn’t passionate about them, and therefore, I was wasting my time and talents on them.
3. Paying Rent Is More Important Than Saving Face
Rory had high expectations for herself in the publishing world, which is great, but she forgot a little fact – rent is due every month. If you have financial obligations, then you sometimes have to take on less desired positions to stay afloat financially. I’m not saying saddle yourself to a desk job and forget your passions. I’m just saying, “Don’t forget rent is due.”
Rory rejected several writing positions because they weren’t highly esteemed. Sometimes you have to do the “crap work” before you get your dream job. This past month, one of my dreams came true – I was published in Forbes. #Mindblown However, if you looked at what I was writing four or five years ago, you might have thought I would get my name on top websites.
Don’t be afraid to start at the bottom and work your way up.
4. Babies Are a Game Changer, Not a Game Ender
Spoiler alert, Rory tells her mom she is pregnant at the end of the Gilmore Girls’ reunion. The way she took and delivered the news was like a death sentence. Before my two kids came along, I wasn’t on the path to greatness. After each child, I became much more focused, organized and successful.
Having children is not a game ender or passion destroyer. Yes, they are hard. There was a long period when I got very little sleep between keeping up with assignments and a baby who woke up every four hours. There are times I let an editor down because the most unexpected things happen with my children, but they are so worth it.
When you have your first child, your life is going to change, and that is okay. You can change with your life and still feel fulfilled in pursuing your passions. Think of becoming a parent as a new perspective rather than a dead end.
Okay, Gilmore Girl fans. Tell me what you loved and/or hated about the show revival. I always love to talk Gilmore.