I love being a stay at home mom, and I love working and doing what I do. Sometimes it can be tempting to get in the mindset that if I didn’t have kids, I would get much more done. Do you ever feel the same way? How do you keep up your hustle when the mama part is taking up most of your time?
For those trying to balance working at home with taking care of kids, you know the struggle is real.
Children Are a Better Investment
Sometimes I wish for more “alone” time so that I can get my work done. It is in these times that I get a swift kick in the butt, and I am about to give it to you too.
Your children come first. Period. Why did you want to become a work at home mom in the first place if you didn’t want to make more time for your kids? Most of us stay-at-home moms and work-at-home moms have chosen to the path that we are on because we wanted to spend more quality time with our kids. Yet, it is so easy to get caught up in the busyness of life and forget to actually give our children what they really need- the best us.
I want to influence and help others through my writing, blog and books. However, if I fail at influencing my two girls to bloom into the women they are meant to be, then they have failed. If I succeed with my career and working at home, yet neglect my children, I have failed.
You Are Not a Failure
If you are feeling convicted or guilty in this area, don’t throw your hands up in defeat. No matter how old your children are, there is still time to mend the relationship. If they are old enough to know that “mommy is too busy for them,” then go to them and apologize. Seek forgiveness and ask their input on how they would like you to change. Their answer might surprise you, so listen to them.
If they desire more one-on-one time with you, make the effort. If they wish they could talk to you when they get home from school, make the effort. Whatever changes you can take, don’t delay on making them. You might have to scale back on your activities or miss a few amazing job opportunities. However, in the span of your life, you will never regret investing in your children’s lives and enriching your relationship with them.
5 Question Every Work At Home Mom Needs to Ask
The next time you feel like your kids are getting in the way of your dreams or career, stop to reevaluate. Ask yourself these five questions:
- Does my attitude need to change? This is the first question because so many times it starts with our attitude. Sometimes I become annoyed if the kids are needy for the day, and all I want to do is get work or cleaning done. In these moments, I need to stop and change my attitude drastically. Instead of being annoyed by their neediness, I need to be thankful that I have children who love and want to be with me. Plus, are they really asking that much? Usually all my children want is my attention or my snuggles for just 10-20 minutes. It is such a small and innocent request that I am selfish to withhold.
- Do I need to change my schedule to manage everything better? Are you wasting precious morning hours or evening hours? If you fail to plan your day, then plan to fail. Perhaps you need to wake up an hour earlier, perform an evening routine to set yourself up for success in the morning, or need to use your night time hours more wisely.
- Do I need outside help? Mama, you are supermom, no matter how many kids you have. However, you cannot do it all. Getting outside help is not a bad thing, and in fact, it can boost your productivity, mood, and family relationships. Perhaps you need a virtual assistant for your business or a babysitter to watch the kids once a week or even a house cleaner to do a deep clean once or twice a month.
- Am I taking on more than I should? At one point, I had signed myself up for 60 hours of freelance work per week. I just kept saying “yes.” The problem is that 60 hours of work plus 88 hours of mama duties doesn’t equal enough time for sleep or personal time. You don’t have to do it all, and you can’t do it all. Work to make your life and family better, don’t live to work.
- Am I pursuing something out of my season? Seasons of life come and go, and that is okay. You might miss out on a business opportunity now, but the newborn season and the young children season is extremely short compared to a lifetime. There will be other opportunities available once you are in a different season.
I write this post to you as much as I write it to myself. It is something I have to continually be on top of. Why? Because it can be tempting to go after riches and fame, even if they are the small riches and fame as a freelance writer. It is so much cooler to tell people you were published on Time than that you wiped a dirty bottom that day.
Our roles as mothers will always be more important because we are shaping the next generation. We are crafting human beings to be the next leaders, influencers, and loving parents of tomorrow. The investment we put in our children can have major returns for many generations to come.